This is Alexie Joi! My outgoing, outspoken, tell it like it is, old spirited, no nonsense niece. She was 10 months in this picture. This post is inspired by her.
I was on the phone with my mom earlier and she was telling me that AJ (her nickname) told her that the kids at school call her ugly, stanky butt and funky. My heart dropped because I know my brother makes sure she’s bathed, clean and pressed EVERY day. Yes, I said my brother. That’s another story for another day.
I asked my mom “Well, what does she say back to them?”
Side note: AJ is sweet as pie but she spits hot fiya! The girl has a verbal assault so vicious, she’ll have your great grandma thinking twice about what she said.
My mom said “She said she just laughs and tells her teacher.”
I’ve said before that she has such an old soul and the fact that she lets it roll off and is essentially “unbothered” makes me so proud. It also makes me want to step in and take the shots for her. She’s so kind and so smart and so witty. What’s not to love about her? Why would her peers set out to hurt her? I know she isn’t hurt but I am. I empathize with her.
I was called ugly, porky, piggy, fatty, roly poly and other cruel, unimaginable things. And I let it roll off because I wouldn’t let anyone see me sweat but inside I was dying because I couldn’t understand why anyone wouldn’t like me. I was nice to everybody. I didn’t even bother other kids. I wonder if she’s doing the same thing. If she’s internalizing the hurt and the pain.
I wish I could just grab her and hug her and hold her and tell her she’s beautiful and she smells so good (because she always does lol)!! But I wish that I could be half as strong as she is even at just 4 years old.
(AJ & her little sister, my other niece, Aeryn)
I admire her leadership (she takes charge of any situation), her big heart, her tender spirit, her reassurance, her warm welcomes and her love for all no matter how badly they treat her.
She has this tendency to give of herself so freely and selflessly. I love that about her. I love that she can ignore cruel kids and savage beasts.
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